Toxic Expectations

The funny thing about expectation is, for me, the fact that it swells and expands with time. Take one relationship you have with a friend, for example. I’d bet all my money that you didn’t start off as close as you might currently are.

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Like everyone else, you must have started as total strangers, then you gradually become closer. Notice that the expectation you have towards them also grows, almost hand in hand, with the maturity of the relationship.

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9 Things to Do Before Starting on a Novel Project

If you’ve been following me on Instagram lately, you’ll know that I’m currently planning for my next novel project.

It’s a long time coming project, since the last time I published a novel was at the end of 2017—I couldn’t even remember how many times readers and my editor had asked me if I was working on my next book.

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Writing a novel is always hard. It doesn’t matter if I’ve done it in a short amount of time; I still shudder in fear whenever I think of the days I’ll spend getting stuck on a nasty writer’s block, trying my best to finish just one last scene before grabbing dinner to-go.

Scared as I was, I kept on trodding the uncertainty of “starting a brand new novel project”. And although it took me quite a while to gather my ideas and build up excitement for the project, I currently feel like I’m ready to start writing it.

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Writing Prompt Challenge Giveaway!

If you’ve been following me on Instagram, then you’d know that I’ve had this “writing prompt challenge” thing going on for awhile. To put it simply, I post a question sticker on my Instagram Stories every Saturday, and my followers can submit one writing prompt each to me.

During the following day, I would sort through all the submissions and try to write something for them. The results will vary greatly depending on what I feel like writing. Sometimes this could mean a short story, other times a prose, or poem, or anything else in-between.

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The best part from starting this initiative, for me, is that I get to build this small (but awesome!) community. I’ve seen the same people submitting their prompts from time to time, also people who were initially too shy to submit their prompts, but eventually took a leap of faith.

It brings joy to me seeing how my followers could find something in this program, especially considering how I first started the initiative because I was bored and wanted to brush up my writing skills.

So after giving it some thought, I’ve finally made a decision: I want to give back to this awesome community, no matter how small my token of appreciation might be.

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30 Ideas to Go on Your Own Artist Date

If you’re a writer, or an artist in general, it’s imperative that you take care of yourselves from time to time.

I’ve talked about how you could decompress during a busy week, which are the small things you could do every single day to keep your stress levels in check. I’ve also talked about going on a writer’s retreat from time to time to recharge your creativity.

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But what about the in-betweens? You might not have the luxury to afford a writing retreat, and you might already have been doing all the decompression methods I’ve talked about, but you still feel burnt out at the end of each week. Take a step back; it’s normal to feel overwhelmed. Calm down. Take a deep breath. We’ve got this.

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